After last class' scenes, I would like to share these questions with you (and I expect you to join in the discussion, of course!).
. If you could talk to Rose and Hanna, what advise would you give each of them to improve their mother-daughter relationship?
. The dictionary defines self-esteem as "the belief and confidence in your own ability and value". What are your considerations about it? How can people build up healthy self-esteem? Can you recall any personal experiences in which your self-esteem was either lowered or boosted?
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Hi everyone!!! How are you doing?
ResponderEliminarWell, concerning the first question, I would advise Rose to be more patient and tolerant with her mother; and to try to know her better so as to avoid arguments. On the other hand, I would advise Hanna to respect her daughter as she is and change her negative attitude towards the things Rose does or decides. It is clear they don’t share the same interests, but they should respect each other as they are.
Now, I’m going to take into account the questions about self-esteem. I agree with the definition and I would also add self-esteem is love for yourself. I consider it important to believe and have confidence in our abilities and, above all, ourselves, because if you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will do so. People can build up a healthy self-esteem by doing things they enjoy and want to do so as to “feed” their souls and face life in a different way. They should also see and look for the positive side of the situations they live and believe they can make their dreams come true and achieve their goals. As Cintia said once: “believe in yourself is the first step to succeed”. Finally, I will recall a moment I lived some years ago in which my self-esteem was totally low. I know you may find this ridiculous or funny but I would like you to respect what I’m going to write because this was painful and I suffered a lot. When I was 13 or 14 I was really disappointed with my body, not only because I’m short, but also because of everything related to it. This hurt me so bad that I tried to do things I can’t even imagine now. But as the time passed, I understood that image is not important, people value for their hearts. Perhaps I have some problems with my body but I try not to think about it. I’m healthy; I have a marvelous family, an amazing boyfriend, caring friends and a good life. What else can I ask God? I’M HAPPY!!! And that’s all what matters! Liliana, thanks for letting us express!!
Hello everyone!!It´s a pleasure to share my opinions with all of you again!I´m really enjoying the movie and I consider liliana´s questions thought provoking!
ResponderEliminarConcerning the first question about the movie,I would advise Hannna to be more patient with her daughter.She should try to have a civilised conversation with her, in silence, mabye when they are having lunch or dinner.What they don´t have to do is to talk with the TV on and fighting for the remote control,shouting and so on.I would advise Rose to try to support her mother in her work and not just talk about hair styles and superficial things like that.Both of them shoul talk about their lives,interests and reach to an agreement about how to improve their relationship,bearing in mind that they live under the same roof.
About the question of self esteem,I agree with the dictionary´s definition, and I want to add that your self esteem depends only on you,on your beliefs and above all, what you think of yourself and how much you love yourself.If you don´t believe that you can do something,you will have many opportunities to fail.People can build up a high self esteem setting small goals at first.When they achieve what they were looking for, now they may feel more confident to achieve something more difficult.
I can recall a moment in my life when I had a low self esteem.It was when I was a little kid and I was seven or eight years old.I was very shy and I didn´t have friends neither at school nor in my neighborhood.I didn´t eat many kinds of food because I used to think that they are not going to be tasty.Althoug I liked basketball at that age,I practised it three months in a club but after a few months I gave up because I think I was not good at sports.That was perhaps the most difficult moment in my life.That´s all guys,have a nice Tuesday!Bye!!
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ResponderEliminar. If you could talk to Rose and Hanna, what advise would you give each of them to improve their mother-daughter relationship?
I would advice them to remember that they belong to the same family, and for that reason they have to be united. You may have problems in you life, related to work, love or to anything, but you know that your family will allways be there in order to support you, no matter the circumstances. It is also very important for them to respect each other’s personality. They need to understand that although they have very different ways of dressing, behaving and thinking, THEY ARE MOTHER AND DAUGHTER.
. The dictionary defines self-esteem as "the belief and confidence in your own ability and value". What are your considerations about it? How can people build up healthy self-esteem? Can you recall any personal experiences in which your self-esteem was either lowered or boosted?
Of course I go along with the dictionary definition. I think that it is fundamental for us to believe in ourselves, because that is the “engine” which helps us do things we consider difficult to achieve. I think that it is also very important to recognize other people’s achievements, because that also helps build up their self-steem. What I am trying to say is that although we have to make up our own self-steem, it is important to hear from other people that we are good doing something.
I can recall some personal experiences in wich my self-esteem was lowered. As I am a student, I have been through different situations in which I felt that I was no good at doing something (studying english, for example). The fact of failing an exam was, is, and will be allways a way of lowering my self-esteem. No matter what people may say to me in that moment, (things such as “you will do it excelent next time”) I feel terrible. But of course, after thinking abut it I always come up to the same conclusion: an exam is just an exam.
As Loly says, I have all the things that I need in my life, so I should not get depressed when situations like that are shown. On the contrary, I should “take advantage” of my family and friends, and let them help me in order to go through the crisis. As I said before, our relatives and friends are the ones who are by our side at any moment.
Hello cakeclass! These are my answers:
ResponderEliminarFirst question:
In my mind, I would talk to Hanna first, because she is the mother and she should be a good example for her daughter. On the one hand, she shouldn’t compete with Rose or make her feel embarrassed or uncomfortable with her presence like when she wants to be the centre of attention. On the other hand, from my point of view it isn’t a problem that the mother cares about beauty and physical appearance. There are a lot of people who do that but what I’m trying to say is that the real problem is the lack of communication between both of them. They should spend more time together and should forget the differences on their interests. It would be great if they found something in common because I’m sure there would be something. Finally, I agree with Loli’s ideas about advising Rose to be more patient and tolerant. In my opinion both she and Hanna should keep working on their relationship.
Second question
ResponderEliminarI totally go along with the dictionary definition and besides I think you have to have a high self-esteem because it helps you face your life, i.e. your problems, your preoccupations and your bad moments. If you are positive, assertive and strong you can construct a healthy self esteem. Of course you also need the support of your family and friends because they give you love and comprehension. As Mirta Legrand says people will treat you in the way they see you. For instance, if you look down or bad, people will treat you in the same way and you may not be respected. However, if you look happy and confident, they may treat you like that and your daily life will be happier.
Hi everyone! Here are my answers:
ResponderEliminar-If you could talk to Rose and Hanna, what advise would you give each of them to improve their mother-daughter relationship?
I would advise Rose and Hanna to be more patient and broad-minded with each other. Everybody knows that they have different personalities, but none of them are trying to understand their differences. In my opinion, they should stop trying to change the other’s personality and respect each other. Rose has to accept that her mother is a very extrovert person who enjoys getting people’s attention and Hanna has to embrace the idea that her daughter is the exact opposite of her. Once they resolve their differences and they realize that they belong to the same family, they will be able get to know that they really love each other and that their differences are not important.
-The dictionary defines self-esteem as "the belief and confidence in your own ability and value". What are your considerations about it? How can people build up healthy self-esteem? Can you recall any personal experiences in which your self-esteem was either lowered or boosted?
I think that self-esteem is very important for everyone. It makes us to be less vulnerable because the confidence, the self-assurance and the love for yourself are the tools we need to achieve what we want.
I remember a personal experience in which I really had to learn to boost my self-esteem. I think that everybody knows that I have a twin. Well, I always share my life with my twin sister, Andrea. She knows everything about me and I know all about her. That will never change. When we are in High School (and I am saying “we” because we went to High School together) we used to do many things side by side, we had the same friends, we usually went to the same places, and we took decisions together, etc. However, when I finished the High School and I had to start my own career, it was very hard for me because I was not accustomed to managing by my own. At the beginning I had a low self-esteem and I did not believe in myself but them little by little things started to improve. Now, I can say that I really love my sister, but not as an “extension of me.”
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Well, if I have the chance to talk to Rose, I will tell her to be a little bit more tolerant because she is a grown-up woman who has been through a lot of difficult situations in which she has to find a way on her own to get out of that painful situation which was that her husband had died. Besides I think that Hannah is an example to mothers because she gives all for her daughter. She brought them up on her own and that's admirable.
Now, what I will tell Hannah is that she should stop talk to Rose from heart to heart, you know what I mean? to give her daughter the opportunity to say how is she feeling, what worries her, and so on and so forth.
To my mind, self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves, what we think we are capable of doing or not. When we fail on an exam, we get a low sel-esteem because we think that we are loser or something like that or for instance, when a romance founder we think that we are to blame and we have the feeling that our world is falling appart. it's extremely dangerous to suffer from low self-esteem it could end up being a terrible depression that sometimes is really hard to recover from.
If you want to build up a healthy self-esteem, you should set "reachable" goals in life, not the ones that you know are impossible to achieve
Hello class! I think I´m the last one… well, concerning the pieces of advice, I´d advice Rose not to be so reserved with her mother, besides, although she is not interested in Hanna´s interests, she should demonstrate that she cares about those things, and try to find something in common instead of wanting to turn on the TV. Now, I´d tell Hanna not to be always behind her daughter´s back, to listen to Rose carefully instead of talking all the time about her, and to let her live her life. An advice for both would be: demonstrate how much they love each other rather than complaining all the time because then, it´s too late.
ResponderEliminarNext item: “self esteem”. I do agree with the dictionary´s definition, but I´d add, as several of my mates said, that the more you love yourself, the more self-esteem you have. I think that self-esteem is basically necessary to achieve what you want and to show other people who you are.
People have much to do with your self-esteem. It´s natural that you´ll feel better and stronger if a person who you love encourages you and congratulates on your success. That is why you, me, all of us always tend to share our positive acts in order to be compensated by a word, a phrase or whatever, even by a gift!
I remember an occasion when I had a low self-esteem. I was 8 or 9 years old and I practiced gymnastics. I had to do a big jump and I was afraid. A girl, in that moment, said to me that I was not able to do it because it was too difficult. Having heard that words, I was even more afraid, and obviously I couldn´t do it. She always said that kind of things to different girls, but then, I recognized that the one who was unable to jump was her, so as she didn’t trust in herself, she wished that nobody could be self confident in jumping.
How are you doing?!!! This movie makes as think a lot and I´ve read many interesting coments up to now! Personally speaking I think that Rose and Hanna are clearly two very different people. Their way of reacting and behaving in life shows that they don´t share any interest at all. The very first piece of advice for both of them is to understand that each of them has a personality of her own and that it is precisely that what they should preserve and respect above all. It is just a matter of knowing well who is who and which are her interests and therefore support the other in that choice or selection of life style. In this relationship we can see two grown ups sharing a place but nothing else, that is why they really need to be more patient and accept the other as she is. This is very important because they are mother and daughter and it should have been long ago that they have respected each other´s way of being to enjoy a much more “healthy” and civilized relationship.
ResponderEliminarAs we´ve all agreed self-esteem is the confidence on yourself. What I think that always lacks in a person with low self-esteem is that he or she has to enjoy a lot more things she/he really likes not just keep on doing certain kinds of activities or listening to a kind of music or going to places that the majority of the people do or listen or go to because he/she is loosing his/her personality. One should always keep in mind that if you are trying to impress somebody or just want to be part of a group, noone will respect you or accept you if YOU, YOURSELF don´t respect and value yourself!!!
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Loly, what nice thoughts! Thanks for sharing your personal experiences. It's true that there comes a time in life when we start appreciating ourselves for who we really are and not for our appearances. I guess this type of development requieres intelligence but above all, a fine soul. I'm glad to see you have both!
ResponderEliminarHi Cristian! Good advise to Hanna and Rose. Isn't it true that parents and children should have talks about the way they communicate and relate to each other. Do you think many of us do? I have another question for you: how did you overcome your low self-esteen period? thanks for telling us something about your childhood, which I'm sure is very dear to you.
ResponderEliminarVale, I go along with you when you say a family will always be there for you... no matter what!
ResponderEliminarAs for your comments on how you feel when you fail an exam, I believe we should try to do our best in everything and be kind to ourselves if we honestly did the best but somehow things didn't turn out the way we expected. What is an exam in the course of your life? What is a hurdle compared to all your achievements? Nice reading about your thoughts! thanks for sharing them with us.
Hi Flori! Perhaps it is true that people treat you according to the way you show yourself to be. What I've experienced many times is that when you feel good about yourself, everybody tells you how good you look. It seems we emanate some kind of energy that people perceive, whether it is negative or positive energy, and eventually it comes back to us. Interesting!
ResponderEliminarHi Fabiola! I think your ideas about accepting the way people are and not trying to change them is a key point in any serious relationship. Now, I wonder, should we help other people change for their own benefit also? Do you think that's possible without violating the other's personality?
ResponderEliminarI'm glad you shared with us an experience that has taught you so much in life, as learing to love your sister but not as your own extension. Thanks for writing!
Hi Cintia! Nice thoughts. It's true that to set reachable goals for yourself is safe and lets you build up solid self-esteem. However, what about higher goals? Isn't it true also that having utopias helps you go on struggling in life to get them and gives you a sense of direction? I wonder! What do you think?
ResponderEliminarHi Luz! yes, it would be good if Hanna and Rose could talk to you about their relationship!
ResponderEliminarAs for as your experience with that girl when you were little, what a way to learn about human nature! It's so sad when you come across those kind of people. But then, for each one who behaves that way, there are so many others who will boost your self-esteem and make you feel confident. They are friends or family who will probably love you no matter what!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
Bibi, thanks for sharing your thoughts about respecting yourself first of all if you want others to consider you a valuable person. It is true, but not always easy to achieve for some people, is it?
ResponderEliminarAgain, your analysis about mother-daughter relationship comes down to respect! I completely agree with you.